Review from a Professional Matchmaker
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31 Aug, 2010When I first read "If I Am So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?" I was more impressed with it and in fact recommended it to a few clients (the title does a tremendous disservice to the book as certain people - especially men - feel uncomfortable purchasing a book with this title or having anyone see it in their apartments). On the positive side, I liked that the author has a Master's of Divinity and that she takes a very thoughtful, intellectual approach to the topic. However, since I have read "If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?" I have read numerous other books on dating/love/relationships that I would recommend above this book.
That being said, this book has the potential to be very helpful for people who have not done much soul searching and have not really examined the possible reasons why they are still single when they do not want to be (as Page calls them, "involuntary singles"). Indeed, someone who is never satisfied, potentially Type A, who is constantly finding fault/flaws in others while failing to recognize his or her own shortcomings (and the need to work on them) and who has unrealistic expectations could benefit greatly from the introspection this book facilitates. I particularly enjoyed the author's discussions on the trap of pseudo-intimacy, the fears that keep people out of relationships and her advice on how to spot and avoid the commitmentphobes.
I agree entirely with the reviewer who commented that the first half of the book is much better than the second half. I was engaged in the book for the first half and my 4 star review is based upon the first portion - the second half is a bit tedious to read and lacking in much value.
Marni Galison, President and Founder
Sunday at Noon Matchmaking and Events
The truth will set you free...
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30 Aug, 2010What an awesome book! Susan revealed soooo much truth in this book. The truth that had never been discussed or addressed by any other authoritative figures. When the conservatives telling singles 35+ to wait on God, or you are not ready yet...Aren't the singles being educated to perfectionism? Is it God's will to demand us to be perfect before we can get married? Can we ever be perfect?
Thank you Susan for revealing the truth. The truth set me free!!!
I wish I had this book in my 20's...or even in my 30's...
The book answered the question perplexed me in last ten years. I totally understand now why I am still single and why we have so many singles in the current society. I am working on growing myself out of that and avoid dating any man who voluntarily stuck themselves in the single life...
Thank you Susan.
Practical and to-the-point advice
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4 Jul, 2010If I'm So Wonderful... is very encouraging and treats the reader with respect. The author does a good job of validating all single people, whether they choose to be single (voluntary) or desire a long-term partner, but haven't found him/her yet(involuntary). I have been in several "better than nothing" relationships and this book gave me the helpful insight and motivation to never settle for a BTN relationship again. The chapters about "ambivalence", high expectations, and identifying "commitmentphobes" were very helpful and informative. I've done a lot of self-discovery while healing from divorce, which I believe helped me process the information in this book. I didn't discover this book until after I'd read Mars and Venus on a Date, which is very different and tends to lean toward putting up with wishy/washy behavior and taking things super slowly. This book was a needed positive perspective with encouraging advice and information.
Great Insights for the Terminally Single
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21 Jun, 2010The Laptop Dancer Diaries: A Mostly True Story About Finding Love Again (Volume 1) In my humor memoir about my quest for love in mid-life, I was determined to find the secret formula for falling in love. I started my "love experiment" by reading "If I'm So Wonderful Why am I Still Single?" This is a great book for people like me who like to have a plan. Even though I've read a lot of self-help books, I thought this book opened up some new ideas on the things I was doing that were keeping me from getting into a long-term relationship.
Worth Every Minute of Reading
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22 Mar, 2010After reading some of the reviews on Susan Page's book "If I'm So Wonderful Why Am I Still Single?" I have to agree with whoever commented on chapter 10: If you don't love yourself, you will place an unfair and impossible burden on your partner: you will try to get him or her to make you feel good about yourself.
That insight alone was enough to make me want to purchase this book for every one of my friends.
Excellent!
JT Briggs
author of "Mama Said There'd Be Dates Like This"
